The Missing Piece of the Weight Loss Puzzle.
‘I know what I should do but I can’t seem to do it’
‘It’s as if there’s a little devil on my shoulder…..’
Sound familiar? Clients tell me similar things on a daily basis.
Of course you know what you need to do in order to lose weight. You know what’s good for you and what’s bad. If it were a simple matter of thinking things through logically there would be no problem. But, of course, it’s not that simple. Why, I hear you ask?
As a hypnotist, it makes complete sense. The way I see it, we actually really do have two minds. Sometimes we even say, ‘I’m in two minds’ about something, meaning that we can’t decide what to do. No, I’m not talking about split personalities and mental illness, just the fact that we have a conscious and a subconscious mind. The conscious mind is the part that we think of as ‘me’ whereas the subconscious part is the aspect of ourselves we are less aware of, hence the name. Quite often these different ‘minds’ have different ideas about what you want and need in order to be happy.
Perhaps consciously you wants to be slim and healthy while subconsciously you want to enjoy the comfort of rich food. This results in an internal conflict that makes it very difficult to stay on track and follow through with anything.
Let’s say you find yourself heavier than ever before. The ‘part’ of you that wants you to be healthy is activated and you find yourself eating more healthily and you lose weight. You then reach a certain point and feel more comfortable, even virtuous.
The emergency seems to be over, you may feel that you’ve been depriving yourself, you’ve done well to lose weight so the scales swing in favour of the other part, the part that wants to reward you. You start to indulge. Your virtuous part protests (so you feel a bit guilty) but the indulging part is now in control, so you gain back the weight, perhaps plus a bit more. You feel helpless, confused, guilty and disappointed with yourself.
Many of my clients have been stuck in this destructive cycle for years. It erodes your self esteem, belief in yourself and any sense of being in control. Sound familiar?
So what’s the solution? In my experience the first step in any weight control intervention must be to resolve these inner conflicts. The good news is that I can help you to do this very effectively using hypnotherapy and allied techniques. Once this is achieved, making lifestyle changes is much easier. Why? Because all parts of you are working together…pulling in the same direction. Makes perfect sense, doesn’t it?
I find it especially satisfying when a client is successful in taking back control of their eating. Years ago, when I first started working in this specialsism, I found it puzzling. Why did they feel so powerless and down on themselves?
One day I was reading some research about obesity. The gist of it was this. Overweight people are judged by others as being lazy, greedy and ignorant. Purely on appearance. This judgement applied to health professionals, the general population, and even (this floored me) other overweight individuals.
Even worse though, I immediately realized that I was also carrying around these prejudiced views. How awful to realize that in this day and age of political correctness, that a large portion of the population is subject to this kind of judgement and discrimination. How must they feel? Absolutely awful is often the answer. Add to that the fact that the popular thinking is that the solution is simply to eat less and exercise more, the overweight person is left feeling guilty, powerless and conflicted because they can’t do these simple things. They end up judging themselves as lazy, weak and greedy! A very negative cycle of failure and self-recrimination develops.
This motivated me to make every effort I could to find the solutions. Much of what I have discovered flies in the face of the conventional thinking that you simply have to force yourself to eat less and exercise more. It has much more to do with how you feel. If you feel bad about doing something, you will not maintain it.
The good news is that hypnosis and allied techniques are very effective ways to work with how we feel about things, quickly and painlessly. This is why change can be more rapid and lasting.
Individual results may, of course, vary from person to person.